A ‘toxic’ boyfriend who shared footage of his girlfriend performing a sex act on him a week before she plunged 80ft to her death said he sent the video to her friends to stop the spread of ‘dangerous rumours’ about him.
Damilya Jussipaliyeva, 24, took her own life a week after Alessio Bianchi sent the video to a friend and said he would show her Muslim family the porn clip and footage of her taking cocaine.
Bianchi told an inquest on Tuesday that Damilya had been spreading rumours about him and he sent the sex video in revenge to make her stop.
‘I just felt I had been done wrong and I wanted to get revenge.She had been spreading dangerous rumours,’ he said.
He admits he now regrets sending the film and said: ‘It’s the worst thing I have ever done. My regret is sincere. I acknowledge how foolish a reaction it was.’
Bianchi admitted disclosing private sexual photographs and films with intent to cause distress and one count of assault by beating her when he appeared in court in March 2018 relating to an incident the week before her death.
Asked if circulating the video of Damilya performing oral sex him was an act of revenge Bianchi replied: ‘Yes.That was the straw that broke the camel’s back, which led me to go ahead and send that video but there was a build up to that whole situation.
‘In hindsight it was a stupid, childish and immature and I regret it more than anything I ever did.’
Damilya Jossipalenya (pictured), 24, took her own life a week after Alessio Bianchi sent the video to a friend and said he would show her family the porn clip and footage of her taking cocaine
Bianchi claimed he reported Ms Jossipalenya to police himself on several occasions and he claimed she had scratched him and she had once attempted suicide by trying to jump out of the window on 20 September 2016
In April 2018, Bianchi was spared jail after admitting disclosing private sexual photographs and films with intent to cause distress and one count of assault by beating.
Bianchi, now 30, was handed a 12-week suspended sentence, ordered to carry out a rehabilitation activity requirement and made to pay £250 costs.
He had been in an on-off relationship with Damilya, from Kazakhstan, for more than two years before she took her life.
Giving evidence to Inner West London Coroner’s Court via video-link Bianchi said he met Damilya at Regent’s University in 2017.
‘I started having a relationship with Damilya about six months after.’
He said they were both free download porn videos to see other partners and despite entering an exclusive relationship with Damilya he ended up having sex with one of her close friends after he was asked to ‘look after her and a show her a good time’ in London.
Mr Bianchi told the inquest: ‘During this period we were trying things out.I ended up having a fling with one of her close friends.’
‘At that time I acted wrong. It wasn’t a good thing to do.’
Bianchi said at one stage Damilya went to see her ex-boyfriend in America and he also saw a former partner.
‘It was a tit-for-tat situation.’
He said they were both using drugs including cocaine, cannabis and ketamine, as well as alcohol.
Bianchi said he reported Damilya to police himself on several occasions and he claimed she had scratched him and she had once attempted suicide by trying to jump out of the window on 20 September 2016.
‘She suddenly jumped up from the bed and onto the window sill.I grabbed her by the skin of the back and yanked her back,’ he said.
‘This was the first instance of attempted suicide.’
Bianchi and Damilya (pictured) had been in an on-off relationship for two-and-a-half years before her death
He said police came and put her in a cells ‘because she was a danger not only to herself but to others around her.’
She was sent a video recording on WhatsApp of her performing oral sex at a phone booth in north London, on 25 May 2017.
Attached was a message saying: ‘I am going to keep destroying you.’
One of her friends received the same clip from three different numbers, with one containing the threat: ‘I will f**k you up next, my love.’
When Bianchi’s phone was seized by police on 1 June they found WhatsApp messages in which he had asked his friend to send the video to Damilya.
She reported the sending of the revenge porn to police but continued the relationship afterwards.
In April 2018, Bianchi (above) was spared jail after admitting disclosing private sexual photographs and films with intent to cause distress and one count of assault by beating
Damilya had told police she did not know she was being recorded in the phone booth.
‘I found it really insulting and humiliating, I think he’s doing this for revenge because of the argument,’ she explained.
‘I am still in shock and feel broken.’
She said she was ‘very scared mentally and physically’ because Bianchi had threatened to send the porn video, as well as footage of her taking cocaine, to her family.
On 1 June the pair went out drinking with friends, arriving back at Bianchi’s apartment at around 11.30pm.
They had an argument before Bianchi pushed Ms Jussipaliyeva into the water feature in front of the building.
The violence outside the building lasted for over half an hour before the concierge called police and in the early hours of 2 June.
Bianchi, born in Jeddah, Saudi Arabia, was arrested and had his phone seized.
The next day he received distraught text messages from Damilya.
He called police and rushed to her apartment in South Wharf Road, Paddington, but found her dead on the ground.
She had left a note which read: ‘Alessio I love you, sorry.’
Towards the end of his evidence Bianchi was asked about his happier memories of Damilya.
Bianchi said: ‘She was a sweet girl.We had similar personalities. We had similar backgrounds.
‘It hurts, it really hurts to see it ended in this way. I wish there was something else I could have done.’
The coroner said: ‘The important thing is you behaved very badly plainly in a couple of things you did and you pleaded guilty and were punished.’
Bianchi added: ‘I wish had turned away and maybe things would be different.’
The inquest continues.
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